Sunday, May 05, 2013

Attitude towards women, needs to change.


If you have not been living under a rock, you would have heard about the recent events; that highlight men's ignorance, sordid attitude and materialistic mentality towards women. On the aftermath, I keep hearing about the influence of alcohol, westernization, sleazy dress & erotic movie scenes, to be the root cause that contaminate young men's mind and digress them towards this behavior. Is it really? It's easy to force the blame on others, rather than to introspect the real reason, cause then it hits too close to home.

Did society's attitude towards women ever cross their mind?  Forget society. How does a boy grow up to be this indiscriminate person, to commit this atrocity, not just towards a women, but to a person, a fellow human? Should we not think about their family/parents? Shouldn't they also be held responsible for this? Aren't they also part of his life, his childhood, that carved him for this behavior, to exhibit bad judgement and disregard basic human decency.

Irrespective of the scenes seen in movies and posters, it's the incidents at home that leave a lasting impression on a child's thought and drives his future behavior. It happens every time, the husbands hit's his wife in front of his kids; mother treating daughters like a maid, meanwhile treating sons like a prince. Looking down upon them, as a weaker sex needs to change.

This made sense in archaic days, since only men thrived as providers. Parents invested in their sons, so that they would take care of them in their old age. Well at least, that was the thought, but I don't think it ever comes to fruition for all. Now, women also are earning the bread for their family, because they get a chance to be educated and thrive in this society. So shouldn't we see a change in our attitude at home first, before we expect the same from our society.

Leering at women is not a sin, just don't make it so obvious, else you just come out as a creep. Lust is natural, but whom we are is defined by our actions, not just by our thoughts and that depends on our upbringing. Religion plays a role, since we are influenced by them and we are forced into that from birth. But every thought in religion, that condemns violence is based on fear(my understanding) and fear acts only has a temporary hurdle, until you face it. Looking at the women; not only as objects of beauty or a materialistic achievement but also as a person, would make a huge difference in our attitude towards them. A small step towards an end of this type of violence.

My .2 cents.

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